This year, I had a goal to really focus on finding balance. – it’s something that I don’t think that I was ready to put specific parameters around because I honestly wasn’t ready to admit that I didn’t have balance in my life. This entire year has been a roller-coaster for me as I went through something I never thought I would go through. I kinda threw it out there in a way where I knew that everything in my life was so out of whack, that finding balance was something that I knew I desperately needed. But I didn’t know quite what that looked like. Was it just being able to “disconnect” more often? Did I need to quit eating junk food? Were some people in my life right – I was just too uptight and needed to learn how to let go? Did I need to book some solo travel adventures to “discover” myself?
Well, it turns out that it was a little bit of each of those.
The biggest thing I’ve learned?
It’s okay to be selfish. For so long, I was operating under the impression that if everyone else around me is happy, then I felt like I was “happy” too. There are so many things wrong with that and I realize that now. If only I would have caught on a little bit earlier. Finding happiness in yourself is the most important thing that you can ever have – it’s the foundation for anything in your life. Yes, it’s great if you make other people happy – but the minute they are not happy, then how do you feel? What does that do for your self-worth?
I’ve always been an optimistic person – But there’s a difference between being optimistic and feeling happy. Looking on the bright side is inevitable as an optimist, but living in that bright side is mandatory to truly be happy in your life. I wish I could tell you the exact directions to do it. It’s different for every single person – what makes me happy could very well likely make you or another person extremely miserable. But, I can say, once I realized that I needed to focus on my happiness, it wasn’t that hard to discover how to find it… However, it’s a journey that can be tough. It can be hard to finally focus on YOU, especially if you are someone (ahem, me) that likes to focus so much on other people. It can be really difficult to take a look at your life as it exists today and admit that it kinda sucks, especially if you’ve worked really hard to get where you are. Notice, I didn’t say impossible. It can be done. But you have to be ready for the hard truth because if you can face that, the other side is definitely worth it.
A few other notable areas I've learned to balance....
Surround yourself with like minded people...
I focus on who I want to let into my life. Yes, you read that right – “let” in. The negative influences and time suckers are now gone. I no longer stay friends with people because we have a “history” or because I feel like I owe them one. The people in my life are there because I love them and I love what they bring to the table. I surround myself with people that I feel make me better, and I hope they say the same, too.
Yes, I’m a runner and I’ve run numerous races before this year… but I never felt like my health was in my control. I could definitely knock out long runs like nobody’s business, but I didn’t feel like I was in the best shape of my life. My weight seemed to go up, and I just never felt confident in how I looked. I changed that this year, both from a nutrition and fitness perspective… I’m still working on figuring out the weight loss portion but I LOVE how far I’ve come mentally and physically. I have more that I want to conquer in this arena, but I love the progress that I’ve found since I started focusing on finding balance. Having that trainer guy help me focus on my fitness and nutrition is definitely a huge help, too.
Seriously, where does the time go? I feel like I’m finally getting a better handle on this and my focus on balance has been to get rid of those time sucks. And also a balance of making sure my time is spent in the right places… with the right people.
Definitely a work in progress. :)